A man grabbed John Wayne’s arm outside Groman’s Chinese Theater and said something that stopped him cold in the middle of a crowd of 500 people. Wayne’s security moved in immediately. Wayne waved them off. What happened next stunned everyone who was there to see it. It was October 12th, 1968 on Hollywood Boulevard in Los Angeles.
The morning was clear and cool, the kind of California autumn morning that arrives without announcement and makes the city look briefly like the place it always promised to be. John Wayne was 60 years old and had just finished a breakfast meeting at a restaurant two blocks east of the theater.
He was walking back to his car with two members of his team when the crowd on the sidewalk parted the way crowds part around famous people automatically without being asked and 500 tourists and locals and passers by registered in their various ways that John Wayne was among them. Wayne did not walk quickly through crowds. He had never developed the habit common among celebrities of his stature of moving through public spaces with the forward momentum of a man trying to escape them.
He walked at a pace that invited interaction, nodded at people who caught his eye, and stopped when someone asked for a photograph with the patience of a man who understood that the photograph mattered to the person asking, even when it cost him something. He was three steps past the entrance to Growman’s when the hand closed around his left forearm. Eddie Garza was 44 years old.
He had grown up in San Antonio, Texas, the youngest of six children born to Miguel and Rosa Garza, who had come north from Mterrey in 1919 and built something small and durable in the Prospect Hill neighborhood. A house that stayed in the family, a vegetable garden in the back. a reputation in the parish for reliability and quiet decency.
Eddie had inherited the decency and the quiet and had added to them in his early 20s the particular discipline of a man who has decided the military is the right place for him. He had served two tours in Korea. He had come back the first time changed in ways he could manage. He had come back the second time changed in ways he could not.
The VA had given him forms to fill out and a referral to a clinic that had a three-month waiting list and a phone number that rang 12 times without answer on the two occasions he called it. He had worked intermittently, construction, loading docks, a brief period driving a laundry truck, and had lost each position for reasons that were difficult to explain to people who had not been where he had been and seen what he had seen.
By the autumn of 1968, Eddie Garza was sleeping in Persing Square, 6 milesi south of Hollywood Boulevard, and eating at the Mission on Main Street, three nights a week, when the line moved fast enough. He was wearing on the morning of October 12th a military field jacket with the seventh infantry division patch still on the shoulder, olive green trousers that had belonged to a larger man, and boots that had been resold twice and were beginning to separate at the left toe.
He had not shaved in 11 days. He had walked seven miles north that morning because he had heard from another man in the square that John Wayne was somewhere on Hollywood Boulevard for a picture or a meeting or something and Eddie Garza had been carrying something for a long time that he had not been able to put down and he had decided somewhere on the walk north that John Wayne was the right person to say it to. He was not entirely sure why.
Perhaps because Wayne had spent 40 years telling the country what soldiers were supposed to look like. The clean heroism, the uncomplicated sacrifice, the men who came home and picked up where they left off, as if the in between had been a minor interruption. Perhaps because he was tired and the anger had been building for a long time, and it needed somewhere to put itself.
perhaps simply because Wayne was there and Eddie Garza had walked seven miles and had run out of other options and this was where the walk had ended. He grabbed the arm. He said, “You made 40 years of movies about men like me. You want to see what we actually look like?” Wayne’s two security men moved immediately.
They were professionals and they moved fast and they had closed half the distance between themselves and Garza before Wayne’s hand came up flat, palm out, fingers together in the gesture that meant stop, which they had learned over years of working with him to obey without question or delay. Both men stopped.
The sidewalk stopped too in the way that sidewalks stop when something unexpected has interrupted the ordinary movement of things and 500 people are trying to determine simultaneously whether what they are seeing is dangerous or historic. Wayne looked at his arm where Eddie Garza’s hand was still closed around it. He looked at Eddie Garza’s face, the 11 days of unshaved jaw, the eyes that were tired in a way that sleep alone would not fix.
The set of the mouth of a man who has prepared himself to be removed, and has decided he is all right with that. He looked at the seventh infantry division patch on the left shoulder of the jacket. He said, “Core.” Garza’s grip loosened slightly. He had not expected the question. He had expected to be handed to the security men and walked firmly away from the famous person and deposited somewhere on a side street and told to keep moving.
He had not expected to be asked a question. Two tours, he said. Wayne nodded once slowly. When did you get back from the second one? A pause. 61. See 7 years? Wayne said, “Seven years,” Garza said. The way he said it, those two words carrying the weight of exactly that much time, compressed into the flattest possible expression, was audible to the people standing closest on the sidewalk.
Several of them, who had raised their cameras when the hand grabbed the arm, lowered them again. Wayne looked briefly at his security men. He looked at the entrance of a coffee shop 20 ft to his left. A plain unchanged establishment with four tables visible through the window. The kind of place that has been in the same location for 20 years and intends to be there for 20 more. You eaten today? Wayne said.
Garza said nothing. “Come on,” Wayne said. He walked to the coffee shop. He held the door open. After a moment that lasted longer than most moments on Hollywood Boulevard, Eddie Garza walked through it. Wayne’s two security men took up positions outside the door without being instructed to.
His manager, who had been half a block behind and had witnessed the arm grabbing and the stopped crowd and the flat palm gesture and all of it, stood on the sidewalk outside the coffee shop and made two phone calls. one to cancel the morning’s next appointment, one to Wayne’s publicist, who would need to know that something had happened on Hollywood Boulevard that morning, though the nature of the something was still being determined.
Inside, Wayne and Garza sat at a table by the window. It was a small table, the kind with a laminate top and a chrome edge, and it was next to the glass, so the October morning was visible behind them, the sidewalk, the tourists, the intermittent traffic on Hollywood Boulevard, moving in both directions as if nothing had happened.
A waitress came and Wayne ordered coffee and eggs and toast for both of them without asking Garza what he wanted because there are situations in which asking what a person wants introduces a formality that the situation cannot support. Garza did not object. He sat with his hands on the table and looked at the surface of it. Wayne poured cream into his coffee.
He did not speak immediately. He had learned over 60 years of being in rooms with people that the first silence belongs to the other person and that taking it from them, filling it with words before they are ready, is a form of theft that most people commit without understanding they are doing it. Garza spoke first.
He talked about Korea, not the combat, not the specifics that civilians always thought they wanted and then discovered they did not, but the coming back. the way the airport in San Francisco had felt, the way his street in San Antonio had looked unchanged when everything inside him had been rearranged. the way people asked how it was over there and accepted any answer at all as long as it was short because the full answer was too long and too heavy for the context of a conversation in a hallway or a kitchen or a backyard which was the only context anyone ever
offered. He talked about the seven years, the jobs and the losing of them, the apartment he had kept for 3 years and the apartment he had lost. the VA forms and the waiting lists and the phone that rang and rang. He talked about Persing Square in a matter-of-fact way that was more difficult to hear than any dramatic account would have been because the matter-of-fact way made it clear that he had arrived at acceptance of his circumstances and acceptance of those circumstances was not something anyone should have to arrive at. They
sat for 2 hours. What passed between them was not witnessed by anyone except the waitress, who later said only that the big man in the nice clothes did most of the listening, and the other man did most of the talking, and that she had refilled their coffees four times without being asked, and that at one point the man in the military jacket had stopped talking entirely, and pressed both hands flat on the table, and looked out the window at Hollywood Boulevard for a long time without speaking.
She said the big man had not said anything during that time. He had not offered a word or leaned forward or made any of the gestures people make when they are trying to coax someone back into conversation. He had just waited. She said she had been waitressing for 19 years, and she had never seen a man that famous sit, that still for that long for somebody he had met 11 minutes ago on the sidewalk outside.
She said she did not know what to make of it, except that it seemed like the right thing, and that the right thing was rarer than people like to admit. Wayne paid the bill. He left a tip that the waitress later described to anyone who asked for the rest of her career as more than she usually made in a full morning shift.
He walked outside with Eddie Garza and stood on the sidewalk in the October morning. The 500 people who had been there when the hand closed around the arm had mostly dispersed, replaced by a different crowd who did not know what had happened and were simply registering with varying degrees of reaction that John Wayne was standing on Hollywood Boulevard next to a man in a military jacket who needed a shave.
Wayne spoke to his manager for 3 minutes on the sidewalk. His manager, Arthur Freriedman, had been taking notes in a small leather notebook since before the coffee shop, and continued taking them now, his face carrying the expression of a professional who has worked long enough with one person to have stopped being surprised by them, and has arrived instead at a kind of experienced trust in the outcome.
Wayne turned back to Garza. There’s a room at the Padre Hotel on Kahena, he said. It’s paid for the month. Arthur will take you over now if you’re ready. He paused. After that, we’re going to work on the other things. There are people who can help with the VA. It takes longer than it should, but it moves if someone pushes it, and we’re going to push it.
Garza stood on the sidewalk and looked at Wayne for a long moment. People were passing them on both sides. The ordinary foot traffic of a Tuesday morning on Hollywood Boulevard, and nobody stopped because the conversation was quiet enough that it registered only as two men talking, which is not in Los Angeles a reason to stop.
“Why are you doing this?” Garza said. Wayne was quiet for a moment. He looked at the Seventh Infantry Patch on the jacket shoulder. He looked at Hollywood Boulevard in both directions at the theater and the tourists and the name embedded sidewalk and all of it. Because you grabbed my arm instead of someone else’s, he said, and because you were right to.
I’ve made 40 years of movies about men like you. Least I can do is no one. The room at the Padre Hotel on Cahena was the beginning. Wayne’s manager, a methodical and well-connected man named Arthur Freriedman, who had been handling Wayne’s affairs for 11 years, spent the following three weeks navigating the Veterans Administration bureaucracy on Eddie Garza’s behalf with the particular effectiveness of someone who has access to telephones that get answered on the first ring.
A benefits claim that had been stalled for 4 years was resolved within 6 weeks. A referral to a VA psychiatric program in Westwood was expedited. A job warehouse work at a film equipment supplier in Burbank whose owner was an acquaintance of Waynees was arranged for the following month. Eddie Garza worked at that supplier for 9 years.
He was promoted to shift supervisor in his third year. He moved into an apartment in North Hollywood in the spring of 1969 and lived there for the rest of his life. He died in 1997 at the age of 73. And the obituary that ran in the local paper described him as a Korean War veteran, a 20-year resident of North Hollywood, and a man known in his building for fixing things that other people’s landlords would not fix, and for remembering the names of everyone he met.
He spoke about John Wayne once in a conversation with his neighbor in the early 1980s that the neighbor later recounted. He said that the thing he remembered most was not the hotel room or the job or the benefits claim, though he was grateful for all of those things. He said what he remembered was the two hours in the coffee shop and specifically the moments when he had stopped talking and Wayne had not tried to fill the silence.
He said most people when you stop talking try to help you start again. He said Wayne had just waited. He said he did not know how Wayne had known that waiting was the right thing, but that he had known and that it had made all the difference. John Wayne never mentioned Eddie Garza publicly. His publicist confirmed years later that Wayne had made explicit instructions that the matter was not to be discussed with the press and that those instructions had been followed.
When a gossip column ran a brief item about an incident on Hollywood Boulevard in October 1968 involving an unidentified veteran, Wayne’s office declined to comment. The story survived through the people who had been on the sidewalk that morning. the 500 who had gone still when the hand closed around the arm and who had watched in various states of disbelief as John Wayne held a door open for a homeless man in a military jacket and walked him into a coffee shop on Hollywood Boulevard on a Tuesday morning in October.
Several of them told the story for the rest of their lives. A tourist from Ohio who had been on her first visit to Los Angeles told it to her children and her grandchildren. A local photographer who had raised his camera and then lowered it told it to other photographers. And it became in certain circles an example of the instinct to document in competition with the instinct to simply witness and of the moments when witnessing wins.
The lesson of that October morning is not a complicated one. John Wayne was the most recognized face on that sidewalk. He had security, a schedule, and every social permission in the world to keep walking. A hand on the arm from a stranger on a public street is, by any reasonable standard, a reason to call for assistance and continue on your way.
Instead, he looked at the seventh infantry patch. He asked a single question. He listened to the answer. He held a door open. He sat for two hours and said almost nothing. And then he used every connection and resource available to him to make sure that the man who had grabbed his arm on Hollywood Boulevard had somewhere to sleep and something to eat and a path back to the life that two tours in Korea and 7 years of an indifferent system had taken from him.
He chose the man in the military jacket over the schedule and the cameras and the reasonable expectation that someone else would handle it. Real strength is not the ability to keep walking when someone grabs your arm. Real strength is the willingness to stop, to ask, to sit for 2 hours and listen to something difficult and not try to fix it before it is finished.
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